Have you ever wanted to do something so much, but you weren't sure of how it would turn out and that feeling was kinda holding you back? Do you know what that feels like? Well, I'm always asking myself what I can do to make life interesting; the things that will make me laugh; things that can boost my ego... Everything that makes me feel good in general; and sometimes, I face a troubling question: Will it work?
I want you to take a few seconds and ask yourself how many times you stopped and asked if it would work.
Go ahead, take your time. I'm here waiting...
Are you done? Okay.
Well, most times, the answer I wanted to give myself was no, because, that was something new, something that for me was risky, like exposing myself, saying what I think. I think that of all times you prove yourself wrong, that's the best one, when you find out that going out there and doing what you came here to do is possible and it's happening.
But hiding behind a million questions and doubts, there's just one thing: Fear!
Think about it. How would you define fear? Being scared of spiders? Airplanes? Heights...? Those are all rational fears; and we usually relate fear to tense situations, to things that we can touch and see; things that are physical. Cause behind all that we're only afraid of dying. But what about emotional fears?
If there's a word that can make some people cringe, that's tomorrow. It sounds silly, but if you pay attention, I think we are all afraid of tomorrow. Of The future. Be it because we can't control it, or because we're running out of time... whatever reason you have, you're afraid of losing something.
Life can be a little tricky, because time is tricky; we know that life's short, we can say it out loud, but, we don't actually know that life's short, do we? It seems like it's so far way. As we if we were here and life's out there, external to us. Just... moving. Be honest, do you think you know how short life is?
Let me answer that for you. No, you don't!
You don't know because life is not about lasting, it's about living and most of us are just passing... We wake up every day and some days we're feeling so good, and we can feel that something fresh's coming and we set our minds to change, to make something big, and to make it interesting. At the end of the month, you just woke up everyday seven sharp, went to school or work, came home, and did it over and over again for 30 days.
You might say, "of course we did! We gotta do that, it's part of life (...)". Yeah, but, you get so used to doing what's safe and done and ready for you, that it's just not worth it to stir things up and risk breaking the so "perfect" system.
Let me go back to my choices... Do you know why the answer I wanted to give myself, every time I asked "will it work?", was no? Because no is more than just not doing anything; no is not going out of my comfort zone; no is staying in my bubble...
No is the ultimate baby blanket.
Is holding on to the things you know, the things that won't harm you, that you know and won't show anything new that you have to learn to survive. You're lazy. We're lazy. We don't want new because that means working harder.
After all that... What would answering yourself - Yes- mean? Does it mean fabulous, perfect and easy? Not even close. Answering yourself 'yes' means jumping off the cliff. Getting out of your comfort zone and finding things you're not used to... But those are the moments you prove yourself wrong!
You've been telling yourself it'll be hard, you might get hurt or disappointed... You feel like you're not gonna be able to handle it; well, in the end you're gonna look back and you're gonna be completely lost about how you got there, but you'll be completely sure that you can move forward no matter what. You're gonna get all those stones that you found along the way and you're gonna built a wall out of it. It'll probably take some time until you realize it, but one day you'll see you're stronger than you thought you were.
The best part is that you can do all that in one day, because life is not about lasting, is about living. You're the one that determines the pace of your life. _____________________________________________________________________________________________
I was afraid of writing this, afraid of not getting any response, but, I had a feeling that I should do it; I wanted to do it... But something kept telling me that it was not worth it. All it took was a leap of faith... Because even if 99% of your lazy and scared inner baby is telling you to stop, there's that 1% that makes you feel like the best person in the world and that's what you gotta cling to.
So now, after sharing all my silly ranting, I have a dare for you.
I dare you to go out of your comfort zones; to seek bigger things.
Tomorrow when you wake up, give life a big smile and say “I’m learning”; for every time something bad happens to you, say “I’m learning”. Do that for one day. Tomorrow I want you to get in touch with that thing you loved when you were a little kid. I don’t care if it’s the real thing or just a picture online, but, connect with it and say “I’ve learned”. See how that makes you feel and then you can tell me.
Life is a complete set of lessons and that is why I tell you that as long as you keep finding new ways and connecting with old stories, you’re gonna live life at the fullest.
So, share what you think. Anything. Your fears; your opinion; the way you look at the future; your dreams. Tell us how you felt when you connected with that good memory.
Just feel free to be honest, not just with me, but with yourself. Leave a comment or a question and we can talk about it. Show your friends, see how they feel. :D
♪ Sissy ♪